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  • Passive-Aggression: Quietest Way to Manipulate.

    Have you ever noticed being cool with someone and all of a sudden their behavior changes slightly? They’ll say everything‘s OK, but you know in your spirit something’s off.

    Sometimes it’s so little you don’t even notice it at all. Later on, you find out you were right. ( I knew it !! ) đŸ€Ż

    They admitted that when they posted their cat picture on Instagram, you didn’t leave a comment, but you left a comment on Sally Sue’s, so now they’re mad and you’re gonna pay, buddy!

    They’re secretly now holding some cat resentment and creating a story in their head about why you didn’t like the cat picture
 when really, you just didn’t see it, You were driving, you don’t live your life for Instagram, or better yet
 you HATED that cat picture đŸ˜Œ

    Instead of communicating, they pull away, make comments, or act cold while refusing to explain what’s actually wrong. You’re left confused, overthinking, and apologizing for silence on something you don’t even understand.

    And the truth is, cat jokes aside, it keeps everyone stuck. One person’s too fearful to speak up, the other’s too exhausted trying to fix something they can’t even name. Nobody grows in silence. If you can’t say what’s bothering you, don’t punish someone else for not reading your mind.

    Passive-aggressiveness is what happens when someone doesn’t know how to handle friction and never learned to use their words. So instead, they play games. It says, “I’m too fearful to tell you I’m upset, so I’ll just act weird and hope you magically figure it out.”

    It’s full toddler:

    đŸŒ Silent treatment,

    đŸ˜¶ Awkward energy,

    😒 Weird vibes,

    🔼 And they expect you to somehow figure it out ?

    That’s not emotional maturity. That’s manipulation.

    And half the time, they’ve created a whole storyline in their head that would be cleared up if they just came to you and admitted they’re having a conversation with themselves because of some small offense you probably didn’t even know you caused.

    If someone you’re dating, a friend, or even related to starts acting like you need psychic powers just to be around them  don’t play the mind reader. That’s not love. That’s control. And at some point, no matter how you were brought up, you’ve gotta do the work inside to figure out why certain things cause you to act the way you do and grow. We all do.

    Let them throw their tantrum alone. Because that’s what it is . A tantrum. When they’re ready to communicate like an adult, they can come back and talk about it. Until then, protect your peace. We’ve all got bigger things to worry about in the world right now than emotional manipulation and guessing games.

    @kkwisdumbs

  • What’s the difference between being a victim and victim mentality? đŸ€”

    People online often comment under a woman’s / man’s story of abuse with things like,

    “You’re such a victim,” or “Don’t be a victim.”

    But here’s the truth: She is a victim.

    She’s a victim of abuse. And I honestly can’t believe this even has to be said out loud.

    If you’re walking down the street and you get beaten up and robbed,

    you were the victim of a robbery.

    If someone targets you because of your race, gender, or identity,

    you’re a victim of a hate crime.

    You’re not “being a victim.”

    You were/ ARE a victim.

    That’s what the word means. (Duh) 🙄

    Victim mentality, on the other hand, is completely different.

    It’s when someone creates their own problems, refuses to take responsibility, and constantly blames the world without any self-reflection.

    Example:

    “My house is always such a mess, I don’t understand why this keeps happening to me…”

    Meanwhile, you live alone and never clean. That’s not being a a true victim. It’s victim mentality and it’s called avoiding accountability.

    “ Why cant I get a break? Why is everything falling apart in my life I can’t believe I got fired again “

    Meanwhile, they never show up to work on time. They get in fights with everybody in their office and their refusing to do what was asked. It’s like a blind spot where people cannot ever look inside.

    They always have to be a victim and it’s always everybody else’s fault there’s absolutely no accountability.

    That is victim mentality. It’s self obsession . Stop getting them confused and using the word to dismiss ACTUAL victims. It makes them afraid to speak up about the truth. The truth that may help millions of people.

    Being a victim of abuse is not a weakness. It’s a reality.

    And telling someone who’s survived abuse that they aren’t a victim or to stop playing a victim ?

    That’s gaslighting

    @kkwisdumbs