KK WISDUMBS

Ego can’t live in confidence.✨✨

It would die there.

Confidence can admit its faults. It can sit in a low place without feeling like it takes away from who it is. Confidence has the courage to apologize, accept truths, and change if need be.

Ego can’t accept any of that. Deep down ego already feels not good enough. Any flaw feels like more evidence of that. So it deflects, it points fingers, it puts up a shield to bounce every truth back onto someone else. Because looking inward means facing the ugly parts, and ego doesn’t want to go there.

Ego, which is masked insecurity, tells itself that looking inward means whatever was said about them must define them. That if they admit it, then everything else about them is bad. Admitting it feels like it takes away the false perception they think of themselves. Ego can’t apologize.

Sometimes someone will point something out in you, not in a mean way, but in honesty. And it may hurt, that’s normal. But ego takes it farther. Ego makes it feel like you as an entire person is being attacked by someone sharing a concern.

Confidence sees it differently. If it isn’t true, you can let it go. If it is true, you can take what you need from it without it crushing your sense of self.

Ego poisons your growth.

Confidence waters it.

The Difference  Out loud.

Someone once asked me,

“How do you go from working certain high profile jobs to then doing work most people would be too embarrassed to do?”

The answer is simple: because I know who I am.

My worth doesn’t change depending on where I am or what I’m doing. It doesn’t change if I’m picking up trash, and it doesn’t change if I’m working a high profile dream job.

I know my character. I know my light. That doesn’t get brighter because of a $100,000 outfit or dimmer because of a Ross one. People would feel the same about me either way because the outside doesn’t define the inside.

And when you don’t live in ego, you can enjoy the things ego would never let you. You can see the positives in the job you’re in right now instead of obsessing over the one you wish you had. Ego robs you .Sometimes, self-respect, and ego can show up looking similar, but only we know the true motives behind our decisions.

When your worth depends on the clothes you wear, the titles you hold, or the people you stand next to, your letting things and  people define your worth. In that case You’ll end up in more compromising situations, doing things you wouldn’t normally do just to get the validation you think you need. 

But when confidence lives in you, you won’t fold. You don’t need to prove it. You don’t need to sell yourself short for it.

What Defines You (And What Doesn’t)

Confidence knows that clothes, cars, jewelry, or brand names don’t define your worth.

We all have insecurities in some form or another. Nobody is exempt from that. But when you know you’re a good person inside, you never have to let someone’s shallow opinion, if they choose to look down on you, change what you know in your heart and what God has already said about you.

True confidence comes from the inside. Period.

Character should be the real designer bag.

Love should be the real Cadillac.

Kindness should be the real Ferrari and the real flex.

A Real Example

I remember being at work once when a girl threatened to quit unless she got something that I had, simply because it gave me status. The person in charge asked if I would be willing to give it to her so she would stop throwing a fit.

Ego would have said no.

Confidence said, “Go ahead.”

Because she clearly needed that to feel better about herself. I didn’t.

Ego needs validation. It needs all the shiny things and the constant proving of a worth that people aren’t even asking you to prove. Without those things, it has nothing to lean on.

The Difference Between Loud and Strong

That’s the difference.

Confidence is quiet. Ego is loud.

But loud doesn’t equal strong.

The loudest voice in the room is usually the most afraid.

The second you see ego for what it is, you take its power away.

Ego dies when you starve it.

And when it does, you finally get to grow.

–kkwisdumbs