This might offend some people (sorry .. kinda ) but have you ever noticed how the ones always trying to cut corners or get a deal are usually the same ones who always seem to need more? Like it’s never enough , they still always feel they are lacking.
Meanwhile, I’ve never seen a true giver go without.
Even if it’s just a warm meal for the day, somehow, they’re always taken care of. They are always content.
Takers, on the other hand?
They’re always chasing something.
And still coming up empty.
That doesn’t mean takers never win or givers never go through hard times, but I’ve noticed the people who move with a “Get mine ” mindset, the ones constantly penny pinching like:
“That sandwich I got Billy Bob cost me $6.26, and I even left a penny tip… so now I’m out $6.27. That could’ve been two coffees this week”
People like that?
They’re usually running low in some area.
If I take a friend out to lunch, I don’t go home thinking:
“That was $38.26. I could’ve used that for gas.” 🙄
That sounds tiring.
You can’t always shift the mindset of someone wired to ask,
“What do I get out of this?”
Some people just love receiving more than they love giving and that’s fine.
But if giving comes naturally to you,
if it makes your heart happy,
then that’s a kind of wealth money can’t buy
Because Happiness is true wealth.
The Giver/Taker 👀
If you’re a giver, you’re going to attract takers.
That’s just how it works.
(Which, yes, I fully unpacked in my “Boundaries Are Sexy” article.)
However , here’s what’s wild
so many takers think they’re givers.
They’ll say stuff like,
“Well I got her a gift last year and she didn’t get me one, so I’m not doing that again.”
Um… that’s not giving.
You didn’t give from your heart you gave because you wanted a birthday gift back.
I once had a guy send me a bouquet of flowers 🌺
I thanked him.
I said “Thank you so much that was very kind”
He was furious I said “Thank you“ because he had expectations that that there was going to be more then Thank you , He had expectations even though I already told him several times very politely how I felt.
So… you didn’t send flowers because you thought I deserved them.
You sent them because you wanted something in return and got angry at me when it didnt do what you intended it to do.
Now, of course, being a giver doesn’t mean you won’t be disappointed. It hurts sometimes. It hurts when someone you’ve shown up for over and over can’t show up for you in a small way . You keep showing up because that’s who you are until one day, you realize they aren’t just unavailable they’re using you. And that’s when you stop .
🧠 “ Isn’t that kind of doing things and expecting as well? “
Glad you asked.
There’s a huge difference between giving for selfish reasons , (wrong motives) and just expecting human decency . One is self serving, the other is self respect .
Yes, we need money to survive. But that’s not what makes us rich. I’ve seen people hoard, lie, and scam just a protect their money or gain, and still end up being or feeling empty. I’ve seen people give freely with nothing and still somehow stay full.
I’m super independent. I don’t ask for much. I don’t like to inconvenience people. If I can figure it out on my own, I will .
Not everyone thinks that way and that’s OK. Some will ask for things u can’t always do and obviously you need to check peoples motives so you’re not being taken advantage of but my parents always taught me this:
Never lend money you need / want back.
If you’re going to give, be okay with the chance it won’t come back and if your not then you don’t need to do it. Clearly, you can’t give to everyone in the world. Clearly you have to be mindful.
That’s happened to me more than once.
Lending and not getting it back and yes, sometimes I get frustrated.
God sees what’s taken.
He’ll bless me in ways I don’t expect.
If someone needs something so badly that they’ll take what’s not theirs from a person kind enough to help them out in hard times ?
They probably need it more than me.
Nothing goes unnoticed by God.
I don’t have to chase what I gave away.
He’s got me.
A Quiet Little Miracle ✨
There was a time I had $50 to my name.
I’d just paid rent. I owed my tax guy $200.
I was cleaning bathrooms at church sunday evenings and serving in the mornings and I was feeling kinda low about my financial situation
But something told me to give what I had left.
So I did.
I dropped that envelope into the offering box.
Two seconds later, a stranger walked up to me and said:
“ I really felt like I need to give you this”
It was an envelope with exactly $200.
The exact amount I needed.
I sat in my car and cried. 😢
That little moment?
That was the reminder I needed.
That even in the quiet places , even cleaning toilets 🚽
He sees me.
Entitlement Is a Blessing block ❌
It’s how you respond to blessings.
It’s about a mindset.
It’s being grateful with little
not ungrateful while still demanding more.
It’s not expecting everything but appreciating nothing.
Gratitude multiplies. Letting go makes space for more.
Entitlement drains the blessing because you can’t see it .
I once bought a stranger a whole footlong sandwich.
He opened it, looked at it,
and threw it on the ground.
It wasn’t the meat he wanted.
He wanted turkey. Not chicken. 🆘
It’s that kind of mindset that gets people stuck.
Always looking at what’s wrong with the gift,
instead of what’s right with the fact they got one at all.
Next time someone gives you a free soda and you wanted an iced tea…
try being grateful.
If someone opens their home instead of complaining about everything appreciate that you got a free place to stay 🙏🏼
The more grateful you are,
the more blessed and appreciative you start to feel ☺️☺️
The more you give naturally,
the more you’re taken care of in some way, somehow.
Not because you earned it, or planned it
but because your heart’s in the right place to receive it.
So yeah…
Give.
But Give smart without being taken advantage of.
Pour into people who reflect your heart.
Because I’ve never seen a true giver go without.
And I’ve never seen someone who gives with love…
lack contentment and peace.
-KKwisdumbs
KK WISDUMBS 
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