KK WISDUMBS

Have you ever noticed being cool with someone and all of a sudden their behavior changes slightly? They’ll say everything‘s OK, but you know in your spirit something’s off.

Sometimes it’s so little you don’t even notice it at all. Later on, you find out you were right. ( I knew it !! ) 🤯

They admitted that when they posted their cat picture on Instagram, you didn’t leave a comment, but you left a comment on Sally Sue’s, so now they’re mad and you’re gonna pay, buddy!

They’re secretly now holding some cat resentment and creating a story in their head about why you didn’t like the cat picture… when really, you just didn’t see it, You were driving, you don’t live your life for Instagram, or better yet… you HATED that cat picture 😼

Instead of communicating, they pull away, make comments, or act cold while refusing to explain what’s actually wrong. You’re left confused, overthinking, and apologizing for silence on something you don’t even understand.

And the truth is, cat jokes aside, it keeps everyone stuck. One person’s too fearful to speak up, the other’s too exhausted trying to fix something they can’t even name. Nobody grows in silence. If you can’t say what’s bothering you, don’t punish someone else for not reading your mind.

Passive-aggressiveness is what happens when someone doesn’t know how to handle friction and never learned to use their words. So instead, they play games. It says, “I’m too fearful to tell you I’m upset, so I’ll just act weird and hope you magically figure it out.”

It’s full toddler:

🍼 Silent treatment,

😶 Awkward energy,

😒 Weird vibes,

🔮 And they expect you to somehow figure it out ?

That’s not emotional maturity. That’s manipulation.

And half the time, they’ve created a whole storyline in their head that would be cleared up if they just came to you and admitted they’re having a conversation with themselves because of some small offense you probably didn’t even know you caused.

If someone you’re dating, a friend, or even related to starts acting like you need psychic powers just to be around them  don’t play the mind reader. That’s not love. That’s control. And at some point, no matter how you were brought up, you’ve gotta do the work inside to figure out why certain things cause you to act the way you do and grow. We all do.

Let them throw their tantrum alone. Because that’s what it is . A tantrum. When they’re ready to communicate like an adult, they can come back and talk about it. Until then, protect your peace. We’ve all got bigger things to worry about in the world right now than emotional manipulation and guessing games.

@kkwisdumbs