KK WISDUMBS

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People online often comment under a woman’s / man’s story of abuse with things like,

“You’re such a victim,” or “Don’t be a victim.”

But here’s the truth: She is a victim.

She’s a victim of abuse. And I honestly can’t believe this even has to be said out loud.

If you’re walking down the street and you get beaten up and robbed,

you were the victim of a robbery.

If someone targets you because of your race, gender, or identity,

you’re a victim of a hate crime.

You’re not “being a victim.”

You were/ ARE a victim.

That’s what the word means. (Duh) 🙄

Victim mentality, on the other hand, is completely different.

It’s when someone creates their own problems, refuses to take responsibility, and constantly blames the world without any self-reflection.

Example:

“My house is always such a mess, I don’t understand why this keeps happening to me…”

Meanwhile, you live alone and never clean. That’s not being a a true victim. It’s victim mentality and it’s called avoiding accountability.

“ Why cant I get a break? Why is everything falling apart in my life I can’t believe I got fired again “

Meanwhile, they never show up to work on time. They get in fights with everybody in their office and their refusing to do what was asked. It’s like a blind spot where people cannot ever look inside.

They always have to be a victim and it’s always everybody else’s fault there’s absolutely no accountability.

That is victim mentality. It’s self obsession . Stop getting them confused and using the word to dismiss ACTUAL victims. It makes them afraid to speak up about the truth. The truth that may help millions of people.

Being a victim of abuse is not a weakness. It’s a reality.

And telling someone who’s survived abuse that they aren’t a victim or to stop playing a victim ?

That’s gaslighting

@kkwisdumbs